Moe's warm, funny and well-adjusted kids are certainly not mourning the loss of their beloved "guckies'." I credit their awesome mum - and this lovely, magical story she spun them - for all of it.
One evening Liz and I were having a catch-up dinner when she mentioned she was talking to other mothers about the use of pacifiers. My kids are six and four, and I have successfully (without the tantrum) convinced them both to give up their suckies.
A little background on me:
I am completely PRO-PACIFIER. I used 'em, loved 'em and happily tell new moms I meet to go ahead and use 'em. Whatever works, right?
It's a comfort mechanism, that's it. But it drove my parents crazy: they tried everything to make me stop. The biggest problem they had was that it was permanently attached to me. A suckie isn't.
Knowing the comfort I derive from thumb-sucking, I wasn't about to force my kids to stop using their suckies. However, I do know about the dental problems, and the embarrassment that this can sometimes cause. But I made it their decision and didn't pressure them. Too much. And they had gotten to the age where they were embarrassed to have it in front of friends or family.
Instead, I told them a story, repeatedly, until they could tell it back to me.
By the way, we believe in fairies.
In a "Tinker Bell" movie we learned that fairies are born with the first laugh of a new born child.
In the movie "Hook: we learn that fairies can be killed with a child saying that they don't believe.
They can be brought back to life when the child claps and says "I believe in Fairies!"
Remember the Tooth Fairy? There's Suckie Fairy, too.
See, each new born fairy is so grateful for the life the new born baby has given them, s/he
presents to the new baby a suckie - to give them comfort and make them feel safe and loved.
The baby can use the suckie for however long they need it, but as they get bigger, they should need it less.When the baby becomes a big boy or girl, they are to put it under their pillow for the Suckie Fairy toretrieve, in return for a coin/present.
This way a new fairy can give the suckie to a new baby, as a thank-you for the gift of life.
The first time I told this story to my Tink-loving four-year-old, she was so upset at the prospect of giving up her suckie that she exclaimed, "Mommy, I don't believe in fairies!"
I jumped up and started dancing around the room clapping my hands.Startled, she began to laugh and asked what was I doing. I replied that her words had made a fairy sick somewhere and that she too, should start clapping, in order to save the fairy's life.
So we both jumped around the room clapping our hands, shouting, "I BELIEVE IN FAIRIES!"
Three months later she put her suckie under her pillow without being asked.
|Moe's DH made her these memory boxes as a gift. |
One box, suckies included, for each child.
And you? How did you convince your child to give up their favorite gucky/suckie/lovey?